Psychotherapy for millennial women who were raised by emotionally immature parents (EIPs)
Reclaim your authenticity through Dialectical Behavior Therapy & Prolonged Exposure (DBT-PE)
I use a unique blend of therapeutic modalities to help you heal from childhood wounds, address relational traumas, and overcome anxiety.
It's time to break free from the grip of internalized shame, guilt, and fear.
You want to feel calm, confident, and authentic, but old patterns from your childhood keep pulling you back.
Here are 5 signs you may be in this place...You have unfulfilled emotional and psychological needs from a childhood with emotionally immature parents and traumatic invalidation.
This leads to experiencing anxiety, self doubt, depression and struggling with people-pleasing, perfectionism and boundaries in adulthood.
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You swing between emotional numbness and emotional flooding, because your upbringing taught you to suppress feelings rather than understand them.
Growing up with emotionally immature parents meant your emotions weren’t validated, so now your nervous system toggles between “shut down” and “overwhelm,” with no middle ground. You try to reason your way out of emotions.
02You rely on rigid control - of your emotions, environment, and relationships -
Because unpredictability in childhood taught you that losing control leads to pain & unpredictability, which only makes your anxiety worse.So now, even small uncertainty feels dangerous, triggering anxiety and hypervigilance.
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You’re hyper-independent because you learned that depending on others meant getting dismissed, minimized, or let down.
This survival strategy helped you cope with inconsistent caregiving, but now it prevents closeness and makes you carry everything alone.
04You struggle with deep insecurity, people-pleasing, and perfectionism because trauma taught you that your worth depends on keeping others happy.
Your self-worth was shaped around avoiding rejection or criticism, leaving you constantly overthinking, overperforming, and doubting yourself. You struggle to trust yourself & your emotions.
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Maybe you’ve already tried various strategies, therapy or insight-oriented work to heal your anxiety and childhood wounds. You may understand what happened and why…
...yet still find yourself masking your true self, feeling on edge, avoiding conflict, or stuck in the same painful beliefs about yourself.Maybe you've tried self-help through books, podcasts, social media & more, but find it difficult to put what you've learned into practice. You may feel overwhelmed by new information, forget what you've previously learned, and notice no meaningful changes despite your efforts. You need one-on-one strategic guidance from an expert.
Maybe you've tried traditional talk therapy, but found that it isn’t helping you create real change. Without a clear structure, strategy, or treatment plan with specific interventions, it often feels like 'chit chat' each week. Just talking about your problems as they come isn’t working.
Maybe you're unsure of which trauma therapy approach is right for you. You need a therapy with a clear rationale with concrete solutions & interventions, as well as a therapy that focuses less on processing & encourages action steps toward changing with compassion.
Maybe you've tried energetic readings, but realize your spiritual curiosity would be better served by working with a therapist who incorporates spirituality, astrology, and energetics throughout your treatment.
The truth is, there are strengths & limitations of evidence-based psychotherapy and energetic, spiritual healing modalities; this is why it’s important to use both to offset each other’s strengths & weaknesses.
You need a therapist who uses a holistic & dialectical approach by bridging structure, strategy & behavioral interventions backed by research with energetics, spirituality & holistic methods to help you heal your childhood wounds, change your core beliefs, and move past your fears in order to step into your truest, unaltered form.
Individual psychotherapy where the highly respected & strategic practice of Dialectical Behavior Therapy-Prolonged Exposure can be bridged with spirituality & energetics
for women who were raised by emotionally immature parents to overcome anxiety & reclaim their authenticity.Using a foundation of Dialectical behavior therapy with prolonged exposure (DBT-PE), we work together to break patterns that keep you stuck - anxiety, self-criticism, people-pleasing, and perfectionism - while addressing the relational and attachment wounds from emotionally immature parents.
Through guided DBT skills training in session, real-life practice, and trauma-focused exposure interventions, you’ll learn how to:
tolerate difficult emotions without shutting them down or becoming overwhelmed by them
confront & process relational trauma so it no longer controls your present
change long-held negative beliefs about yourself, others & the world so you can finally see yourself & situations that once triggered you through clear eyes.
For the woman ready to step into her truest form with clarity, confidence, and authenticity - this therapy is for you.
Depending on your needs & preferences, healing doesn’t stop at skills and strategies.
As someone who integrates astrology & spirituality in therapy, I’ll guide you in a way that honors your unique energetic blueprint and life path. Together, we’ll explore how your inner strengths, tendencies, and cosmic influences can inform your healing journey so that growth feels aligned, intuitive, and deeply personal.
It's time to let go of anxiety & the patterns no longer serving you, and step into your Authentic Self.
Imagine if this were your reality...Feel calmer, more confident, and at home in yourself.
You experience less anxiety and emotional overwhelm as you live in alignment with who you truly are without shame, guilt, or constant self-monitoring. You feel grounded, self-accepting, and emotionally present, with more joy, trust, and inner peace guiding your life.
01Heal childhood wounds and feel emotionally whole.
You gain clarity about how growing up with emotionally immature or self-involved parents shaped your beliefs, behaviors, and relationships. Traumatic invalidation and emotional neglect are processed, allowing you to feel integrated, healed, and no longer defined by the past.
02Set boundaries without guilt and navigate relationships with confidence.
You ask for what you need, say no when something doesn’t work for you, and recover quickly from conflict or perceived invalidation. You feel steady and self-assured in relationships, including with difficult family members, without people-pleasing, over-explaining, or resentment.
03Trust your intuition and inner voice.
You feel deeply connected to your intuition and internal guidance. Even during uncertainty or stress, you trust your perceptions and choices, creating a sense of safety, clarity, and confidence from within.
04Regulate emotions and tolerate discomfort with skill and compassion.
Instead of avoiding emotions or feeling overwhelmed by them, you have tools to process, regulate, and move through difficult feelings. You’re able to handle conflict, fear, and uncertainty without spiraling, riding the highs and lows of life with steadiness and self-compassion.
05Live in alignment with your values and authentic self.
You become clear on what truly matters to you and recognize which patterns were driven by survival, roles, or conditioning. You take intentional steps toward a life guided by your Authentic Self - not fear, obligation, or old family dynamics.
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A glimpse at the personalized pathway...
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We’ll assess the problem you’re coming to therapy to address, troubleshoot to be sure we’ve identified the problems that need to be targeted, and create your treatment plan.
You’ll complete a few mental health screenings & we’ll discuss them together, analyzing your symptoms.
You'll develop a deeper understanding of your experiences & symptoms, how they are linked to your childhood & I will provide lots of psychoeducation.
At this time, we can also look at your birth chart & utilize key information from that to gain a deeper understanding of your soul’s blueprint.
You leave the assessment phase with solid understanding of what needs to be worked on specifically, your wounds and soul’s purpose.
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I will teach you several DBT skills to address higher level problems and surface level symptoms to improve day-to-day functioning. You’ll learn the basic skills needed depending on your treatment plan, and build confidence applying skills to your day-to-day life.
We will troubleshoot together as needed, figuring out what works for you, what is helping vs what does not work for you.
At this time, using practical, evidence-based principles help you feel better in your body, with a greater sense of control over your anxiety, thoughts, and symptoms. This also functions as preparation for PE.
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We will begin identifying core beliefs fueling anxiety, insecurity, and low confidence. We will target those beliefs using variable-specific DBT interventions (such as cognitive modification, exposure). This is often where exposure protocol & DBT-PE are utilized to change your unhelpful beliefs, decrease unwanted emotions such as fear, shame & guilt, and increase pleasant emotions such as joy & peace.
All the while, we will be identifying your values & I will be teaching you how to use your own wise mind to make values consistent choices, not influenced as heavily by others.
We will utilize different exercises to help you better understand your Role Self vs. your Authentic Self, and begin ditching the Role Self so that you can fully step into your Authentic Self!
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As your beliefs change, values clarify, and your confidence grows, you begin applying interpersonal skills to better your relationships & boundaries. This can be a difficult stage interpersonally, as it’s a transition period for your environment. I will support you the whole way & we will be addressing that in therapy too.
This is where we begin really integrating spirituality into therapy, combining this with your DBT skills use to feel best connected to your intuition, able to trust yourself & feel connected to the universe, even when uncomfortable & experiencing growing pains.
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We address new problems as they may arise, as these are usually higher level problems that may feel like new territory.
This is also where we’ll begin focusing on taking values consistent, soul purpose action steps that feel the most authentically aligned to you. For some, this looks like a career change, starting new projects they’ve been putting off, going on that trip they’ve always wanted to, joining that group or applying to that course.
What makes therapy with Allie Jayne different
You’re not here for passive, surface-level talk therapy - the kind where sessions feel like chit-chat, insight stays intellectual, and nothing really changes between appointments.
You’re ready to work with an active, engaged therapist who brings both structure and compassion. Someone who helps you feel deeply accepted and supports you in creating meaningful, lasting change.
You know it’s time for a strategic, trauma-focused approach, because understanding your story alone hasn’t been enough. My training in DBT and DBT-Prolonged Exposure allows me to precisely target anxiety, people-pleasing, and self-doubt rooted in traumatic invalidation, unmet developmental needs & abuse from emotionally immature parents. I was trained by clinicians who worked directly with Marsha Linehan in the development of DBT, DBT-PE, and the DBT adherence scale, giving me specialized expertise in delivering this work.
You don’t just want a therapist who works strategically, you want one who treats the whole person: body, mind, and spirit.You’re spiritually curious and value working with a therapist who understands this dimension of healing and knows how to integrate it responsibly.
You feel energized when spirituality, astrology, or intuitive wisdom are spoken about with grounding and discernment - not as a replacement for therapy, but as a meaningful complement to it.
You don’t want to “fix” your anxiety only to feel like something is still missing. Through the ethical integration of spirituality, astrology, meditation, and shamanic principles, I help you access deeper meaning, intuition, and self-trust, so healing doesn’t just reduce symptoms, but feels aligned, embodied, and complete.
Meet the therapistMy name is Allie Jayne!
MS, Licensed Mental Health Counselor & National Certified Counselor
Before starting my private practice in 2022, I was the therapy team lead and primary DBT therapist at PHP and IOP programs in Bellevue, WA, where I worked with and was trained by Dr. Kathryn Korslund to effectively deliver Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) to girls, women, and non-binary individuals experiencing depression, anxiety and stress disorders. I worked with hundreds of teens, adults and families, and taught countless DBT skills groups (my favorite).
In May of 2024, I completed Dr. Melanie Harned’s Intensive Training in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy Prolonged Exposure Protocol for PTSD. Before I was a DBT therapist, I was a school-based therapist in FL where I was trained in Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior Therapy (TF-CBT) and play therapy. I also interned at the Delores Barr Weaver Policy Center in Jacksonville, FL, which specializes in helping girls and women, and survivors of human trafficking.
I received my Master of Science in Clinical Mental Health Counseling with a specialization in Marriage & Family Counseling from Jacksonville University. I received my Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology and Sociology from Flagler College.
Our work together will include...
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DBT skills training throughout using Marsha Linehan’s “DBT Skills Training Handouts & Worksheets (2nd ed.)”. We will utilize handouts & worksheets for you to complete homework between sessions with practical, concrete guidance and training. Additionally, when you purchase the DBT workbook, you have access to digital copies of the material.
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When we do DBT-PE to target trauma, weekly psychotherapy session times may extend to 60-90 min. I will provide you with the DBT-PE handouts & worksheets developed by Dr. Harned to utilize throughout treatment (with my facilitation & support).
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You will have access to a client portal through Simple Practice, the practice management software I utilize, where payments, meeting info, practice forms & disclosures, and virtual meeting links will be held.
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Monthly Superbills are provided for you to submit to your insurance for possible reimbursement for therapy services.
We're a good fit if...
✔ You struggle with anxiety, people-pleasing, or boundaries, and grew up with emotionally immature, abusive, or emotionally unavailable parents.
You learned early on to monitor others’ emotions, perform well, or stay quiet to keep the peace, and those patterns now show up in your adult relationships.
✔ You tend to turn problems inward rather than blaming others.
You’re highly self-reflective, accountable, and often try to “fix yourself” to make life work. You may be a perfectionist, minimize your needs, mask emotions, or struggle to say no, even when you’re exhausted.
✔ You generally have stable relationships, yet feel internally overwhelmed or disconnected.
Others may see you as kind, thoughtful, and capable, while few realize how much anxiety, self-doubt, or emotional labor you carry beneath the surface.
✔ You’re driven, responsible, and take pride in your work.
You care deeply about doing a good job and contributing meaningfully, but may struggle to rest, slow down, or feel satisfied with your efforts.
✔ Authenticity, honesty, and integrity matter deeply to you.
You’re ready to move away from living in fear, shame, or guilt and want to reconnect with your true self - while still being compassionate, respectful, and relationally attuned.
✔ You’re ready to actively engage in the healing process.
You’re open to learning skills, practicing between sessions, and tolerating some discomfort in service of real change - not just coping, but healing at the root.
Individual Psychotherapy Pricing
50 minute session fee: $17560 minute session fee (DBT-PE): $20090 minute session fee (DBT-PE): $250For teenagers, I require two intake appointments - one with the teen, one with the parent(s).
I accept all major credit cards & HSA. I do not accept insurance. I provide all clients with Superbills with the necessary information to submit to their insurance for possible reimbursement for therapy services.
What happens in my clients' worlds
after they participate in therapy:
Frequently Asked Questions
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I recommend calling the number on the back of your insurance card and asking about your out of network mental health benefits. Specifically, you might ask, “how much do you reimburse for therapy with an out of network provider?” you might get even more specific, saying “if I have an out of network therapist who charges $175 per session, how much would be reimbursed when I pay out of pocket and submit a superbill?”
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I see clients Mondays through Thursdays, usually between 11am-6pm. Most of my clients have work schedules that fall during session times and utilize lunch breaks for sessions, or meet in the afternoons when work tends to be ‘slower’ (depending on their job). Employers are usually very understanding if you tell them you have a weekly appointment, some people say they have a weekly medical appt, some just say they have therapy and employers do not mind granting an hour each week for this. Sometimes, clients utilize an hour of PTO each week for therapy.
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I have limited in-person appointments on Mondays in a beautiful office located in South Lake Union in Seattle, WA. I offer telehealth appointments on Tuesdays, Wednesdays & Thursdays.
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You will need to purchase Marsha Linehan’s “DBT Skills Training handouts and worksheets (2nd edition)”. It also is helpful to print materials I send you, so identifying ways to use a printer if you don’t own one may be helpful!
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No. A full fidelity DBT program that is in adherence to the evidence-based model created by Marsha Linehan consists of weekly group therapy, weekly individual therapy, 24/7 phone coaching, and therapists must be on a DBT consultation team where they meet weekly. If this is determined to be what is needed for your best treatment, then I will provide you resources for DBT programs to participate in.
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Yes, especially in the first 3-6 months of treatment. Biweekly meetings are only recommended if we determine this is best for you based on my assessment, your progress, and your preference. I do not work with clients on a biweekly basis in the first 3 months of treatment, as it is not likely to be effective.
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DBT is a form of CBT, I like to think of them as cousins. A key difference is that DBT balances acceptance & change in treatment, whereas CBT focuses mostly on change (such as changing your thoughts & behaviors). When Marsha was inventing DBT, she was working to create a treatment for individuals with a history of suicidal behavior, self harming behaviors, and other more 'high risk' behaviors. What she discovered was that therapy approaches that leaned heavily into acceptance (like person centered, humanistic) were not helping clients. She then moved into CBT & leaned heavier into pushing for change, and that wasn't helping either. She discovered the dialectical philosophy that finding synthesis between opposites not only was a fitting metaphor for balancing acceptance with change to help clients build their Life Worth Living, but for all elements of treatment. DBT emphasizes the importance of finding synthesis between opposites, because this is how we grow as people & where positive mental health lives - somewhere in the middle of extremes. Furthermore, DBT is a language based treatment designed to help you stay consistent & behaviorally specific, knowing independently what skills to employ when. DBT also provides many specific skills to help you replace old, ineffective behaviors with new, effective ones that will keep you on track toward your goals.
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DBT skills have 4 modules: mindfulness, emotion regulation, interpersonal effectiveness, and distress tolerance.
Specific skills from specific modules are applicable in a variety of ways, depending on the problem at hand & what you need to do about it, whether that's solve the problem, change how you feel about the problem, or tolerate the problem AND how you feel about it.
It's so fun - once you know the skills, it's like you establish a roadmap for exactly how you want to approach different problems life throws at you!
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Absolutely. So much of our work together will include psychoeducation, processing, exploring your experiences & struggles, and finding links between your present-day symptoms, your past & your family of origin. You can be brand new to tackling this; a huge part of your time in therapy will be spent simply increasing your insight, awareness, and deepening your understanding of yourself & your experiences.
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This is so common in the flow of therapy, especially when we're really working on targeting trauma. Day-to-day problems arise, and I typically start sessions off inquiring with you about what's on your mind & if there's any pressing matter you'd like to make sure we address. For example, if a client is in the midst of exposure protocol with me, they might come in stating 'I need help with this thing that happened / has been on my mind', and we'll prioritize that instead of continuing exposures that day. I'll be sure to tie everything together by the end of session so you still feel on track while we're focusing elsewhere!
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The short answer: Yes! The long answer: I am more than willing to do DBT-PE informed therapy in the traditional 50 min. session model. If we come to find that that is not working for you & sessions are rushed, we can discuss options in terms of session length & cost! I am very flexible with this.
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DBT-PE (Dialectical Behavior Therapy-Prolonged Exposure) and EMDR are both evidence-based trauma treatments, but they work in different ways and are often helpful for different nervous systems and learning styles.
DBT-PE is a more active, behavioral approach to trauma healing. It directly targets trauma-related avoidance through structured exposure work - both imaginal (revisiting traumatic memories in a safe, guided way) and in-vivo (gradually approaching avoided situations, emotions, or experiences in daily life).
A key component of DBT-PE is the integration of DBT skills training, which helps clients build emotion regulation, distress tolerance, and interpersonal effectiveness alongside trauma processing. Because of this, DBT-PE often includes between-session practice or “homework.” This practice is intentional and powerful - it allows healing to extend beyond the therapy room and into real-life patterns.
DBT-PE can be especially helpful for clients who:
Struggle with emotional numbing or disconnection
Find visualization difficult
Tend to intellectualize or stay “in their head”
Want a structured, skills-based, action-oriented approach
Are ready to directly confront avoidance that’s keeping trauma symptoms alive
While it requires active engagement, DBT-PE is often deeply effective because it targets the behaviors and beliefs that maintain trauma, not just insight or understanding.
Are you ready to finally ditch the anxiety & people pleasing stemming from your childhood wounds in order to rediscover your
Authentic Self?
Take action. Schedule your free 15 minute intro call today.