EMDR therapy for daughters of emotionally immature parents (EIPs)
Heal trauma, break family patterns & reclaim your Authentic Self.
finally feel safe, grounded, and free in your own life
You want to feel safe, connected, and at ease in your body, but unresolved experiences from the past continue to surface through anxiety, emotional overwhelm, or feeling on edge, even when life looks okay on the outside.
Here are 6 signs you may be in this place...You have unfulfilled emotional needs & trauma from a childhood with emotionally immature parents.
This causes you to form insecure attachment, anxiety, depression, and struggling with dissociation, overwhelm & perfectionism.
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You feel stuck in a loop
of fight-flight-freeze.
You’re frequently waiting for ‘the other shoe to drop’ or you shut down when something is highly distressing.
02You struggle with accessing & feeling your emotions.
You often fee emotionally numb (but anxious), and then become flooded by emotions & enter the pit of despair.
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You feel dysregulated by situations that others may find ‘minor’.
You know you have triggers & are impacted by childhood wounds or trauma.
04You experience panic attacks, nightmares, or avoid situations you perceive as distressing.
You have a hard time down regulating once emotionally activated.
05You’re struggling with navigating relationships with your EIPs.
You find yourself stumbling into old patterns with them due to struggling to regulate in triggering moments.
06You may have already tried various avenues for healing & even participated in years of talk therapy – yet old triggers, emotional reactions, and negative beliefs continue to show up no matter how hard you try to manage them.
This doesn't mean that therapy or other healing methods haven't worked, it means memories driving your reactions haven't been metabolized yet.
You need a tried and true, balanced approach that works – sometimes like magic – with an advanced, specialized clinician with a rare, high-level combination of training for complex trauma.You’ve tried self-help resources, but struggle to apply them consistently or notice your trauma is still present. You recognize that healing, especially relational trauma, requires experienced therapist.
You’ve tried traditional talk therapy, but find yourself talking about your trauma & revisiting the same material without a clear, structured plan or targeted trauma interventions to support real healing.
You’ve tried energetic readings like tarot or astrology for insight & you're spiritually curious, but want a trauma therapy that’s grounded, trustworthy, and able to thoughtfully integrate mind, body, and spirit to heal at the root.
You’re unsure which trauma therapy is right for you & want a balanced, structured, nervous-system-focused approach that allows your body to heal with support, without lots of homework or techniques that feel too behavioral or abstract.
It’s time for the past to lose its grip so your nervous system can settle, your present can feel safe, and you can look forward to the future where you're building the life you want.
Imagine if this were your reality...A calm, regulated inner world, where you finally feel safe inside yourself instead of constantly bracing for emotional unpredictability, criticism, or abandonment.
You body feels grounded instead of tense. You can breathe fully & respond to stress with clarity instead of panic.
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Freedom from old emotional patterns.
You want to stop reliving childhood patterns in adult relationships, like people-pleasing, shutting down, feeling responsible for others’ emotions. You no longer spiral into self-blame or overexplain yourself. You can assert your needs without guilt or fear.
02A solid sense of self, with confidence, emotional independence, and self-trust, rather than relying on others for validation or feeling ‘enough’.
You feel connected to who you are, your decisions come from your inner wisdom, and you don’t fear disappointing someone.
03Healing from emotional triggers.
You want relief from the lingering emotional charge behind childhood memories, so the past stops intruding in the present. The memories that used to overwhelm you become neutral – they no longer control your mood or reactions.
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EMDR is the therapeutic process I use to help you gently resolve the emotional wounds that fuel anxiety, self-doubt, and relationship patterns shaped by emotionally immature parenting.
Instead of endlessly talking around the past, EMDR helps your brain reprocess it - so the memories stop triggering old survival responses and start feeling truly behind you.
EMDR is the bridge that helps you move from who you had to be in your childhood to who you’re ready to become now.
Below are the top benefits of this approach:
Deep, nervous-system-level healing (not just coping skills)Instead of treating symptoms at the surface, EMDR targets the root of your anxiety within your nervous system, where the emotional imprints of childhood actually live. As your brain reprocesses these stuck memories, your body naturally shifts out of survival mode, leading to lasting emotional relief, a calmer baseline, and fewer triggers day-to-day.
You’re not just learning to manage your anxiety you’re changing the emotional wiring underneath it.
Freedom from old family patterns & emotional rolesGrowing up with emotionally immature parents often meant becoming the peacekeeper, the responsible one, the invisible one, or the overachiever. EMDR helps you release the guilt, fear, and self-blame tied to those roles so you can finally stop reenacting them in adult relationships. You’ll learn how to respond instead of react, asserting your needs without guilt and choosing relationships from a place of clarity, not old conditioning.
The patterns you learned for survival no longer run your life, your relationships, or your self-worth.
A stronger, more secure sense of selfAs EMDR helps you metabolize past emotional injuries, you reconnect with your inner truth - your preferences, your emotions, your voice, and your intuition. You begin trusting yourself in ways you couldn’t before, because you’re no longer carrying the internalized criticism, invalidation, or emotional chaos from childhood. You walk through the world with more confidence, more peace, and more self-trust.
You finally feel like yourself: solid, centered, and in control of your own life.
EMDR isn’t a single trick - it’s a gentle, phased process that helps your brain reprocess stuck, painful memories so they stop running your present.
EMDR follows an 8 phase protocol. I have condensed it to 6 phases here for your understanding, but know that I follow the evidence-based 8 phase structure.
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I take a careful history of your triggers and relationships, teach grounding and self-soothing skills, and create a safety plan so you feel steady in sessions. Healing works best when your nervous system feels contained, not overwhelmed. This phase builds trust and equips you to tolerate activation. This equips you with tools to calm yourself, and you feel seen and understood. Anxiety becomes easier to manage between sessions.
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Together we identify the specific memories, beliefs, body sensations, and relationship patterns tied to your anxiety and roles learned in childhood (e.g., people-pleaser, caretaker, invisible child). We choose targets to reprocess. You can name a few key memories or recurring internal messages that drive your reactions, and we use specific targets to get to the root emotional memories rather than just the symptoms.
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Using bilateral stimulation, we guide your brain to reprocess the target memories. Images, feelings, and body sensations shift so the memory loses its charge & adaptive responses are formed. The nervous system learns a new way to store the memory - one that doesn’t trigger survival responses now. Memories that once flooded you feel more neutral; intense reactions lessen or stop happening in daily life.
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Once the memory’s charge drops, we install healthier beliefs (e.g., “I am safe now,” “I deserve boundaries”) so your thinking and sense of self change with the memory. Emotional relief becomes consolidated into a stronger self-story and more resilient responses. You notice quieter inner criticism and more self-compassion if old patterns appear.
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We check the body for residual tension or activation and reprocess any lingering somatic sensations so the body matches the new, calmer memory. Trauma lives in the body - integrating bodily safety prevents relapse into old survival reactions. Physical symptoms of anxiety (tight chest, racing heartbeat, brace) reduce; you feel physically calmer.
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After a target is resolved, we close the session so you leave grounded. At follow-ups we reevaluate targets, handle new triggers, and strengthen skills. Healing is cumulative - regular reevaluation ensures gains hold and new issues are processed before they become entrenched. You see patterns shifting across situations (work, friendships, intimate relationships) - you react less and choose more.
What makes EMDR therapy with Allie Jayne different?
You’re not here for surface-level coping skills or another round of traditional talk therapy that leaves you over-analyzing your childhood but still feeling stuck in the same patterns. You’re ready for a therapist who combines evidence-based trauma healing with deep intuitive attunement, nervous system safety, and spiritually aware insight - so you can actually experience the transformation you’ve been craving.
Below are the core elements that set my EMDR approach apart:
You’re tired of talking about your anxiety and ready to actually feel better.
You’re not here for ‘chit chat’ - you’re here for real healing. You need a strategic, active therapist who helps you rewire your nervous system, not just process thoughts. Unlike traditional talk therapy, where you often leave sessions feeling “emotionally opened up” without real resolution, EMDR with me is structured, focused, and efficient. Each session moves you toward targeted healing rather than circling around the story. We work at the level where trauma actually lives: the body and nervous system. You get clear therapeutic direction, not vague reflective questions. You experience tangible shifts, not just emotional insight.
You want a therapist who is both intuitive & clinically grounded. I blend attunement, pattern recognition, and trauma expertise with an ability to ‘read between the lines’.
You need a therapist who can gently catch you when you’re falling into your usual patterns keeping you stuck - one that can sense what’s happening underneath the story & beneath your tendency to be ‘good’ at therapy, just like you are at life in general, and sense your suffering & what needs to change.
I guide sessions with clarity & intention instead of waiting for you to lead. I reflect back subtle emotional dynamics you may not yet see. You want a therapist who can meet you emotionally, see the deeper layers, and still hold strong clinical structure.
You desire a therapist who also values spirituality & is comfortable blending spiritual growth, intuition & astrology into your healing.
You’re deeply intuitive & childhood environments taught you to suppress or mistrust that part of yourself. I honor both your nervous system & your inner wisdom.
You want a healing process designed for women who’ve lived in their heads long enough - you don’t want therapy homework assignments, you want a therapy that does the heavy lifting in sessions, so you don’t leave with to-do lists.
Meet the therapistMy name is Allie Jayne!
MS, Licensed Mental Health Counselor & National Certified Counselor
I graduated from Flagler College with a BA in Psychology and Sociology in 2015. I graduated from Jacksonville University with my Master of Science in Clinical Mental Health Counseling with a specialization in Marriage & Family Therapy in 2019.
I have experience working as a school-based therapist where I provided TF-CBT, play therapy, and trust based relational interventions. I was trained by Dr. Korslund to deliver DBT in PHP and IOP programs in Bellevue, WA from 2020-2022. I completed Dr. Harned’s DBT-PE Intensive Training in May 2024. I completed my EMDR foundational training through the Trauma Therapist Institute & will be finished with my consultation hours in January 2026!
Our work together will include...
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Sessions are for skills training, preparation for reprocessing, and trauma reprocessing using bilateral stimulation (eye movements). We will use visuals & handouts to help you better understand your nervous system, trauma responses, and coaching is provided in session so you get practice in regulating your nervous system.
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You will have access to a client portal through Simple Practice, the practice management software I utilize, where payments, meeting info, practice forms & disclosures, and virtual meeting links will be held.
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Monthly Superbills are provided for you to submit to your insurance for possible reimbursement for therapy services.
This EMDR therapy offering is designed specifically for anxious adult women who are ready to stop carrying the emotional burdens created by emotionally immature parents and finally feel safe, grounded & free in their own lives.
If you see yourself in the descriptions below, you’re in the right place.
✔ You’re in a stage of transformation where you’re aware something deeper is going on.
You’ve done the thinking, analyzing, self-help books, and maybe even talk therapy, but you can still feel unresolved emotional pain living underneath the surface. You know the anxiety, people-pleasing, self-doubt, and emotional caretaking you do today are connected to old wounds, and you’re ready to do the inner work required to finally shift them. You’re no longer content with just “managing” symptoms - you’re ready to heal them at the root.
✔ You grew up with emotionally immature, neglectful, unpredictable parents, or abusive parents and it’s impacting you deeply.
You may not have called it trauma before, but you know the environment you grew up in shaped you. You felt unseen, unsupported, dismissed, or blamed. You learned to internalize your emotions to avoid conflict, rejection, or abuse. You became the responsible one, the peacekeeper, or the invisible child. Your body still holds the residue of that upbringing, and you want a therapy process that understands this pattern deeply.
✔ You struggle with anxiety that feels bigger than the moment.
Even though your current relationships, job, or life circumstances are relatively stable, your anxiety feels disproportionate - like it has a life of its own. You might overthink & catastrophize, feel guilty for simply having needs, struggle to relax even when things are “fine”, experience a constant sense of emotional bracing, and mask your suffering so others don’t worry or judge. You intuitively know your reactions aren’t just about today - they’re echoes of the past.
✔ You’re emotionally self-aware, but you’re tired of understanding your patterns without feeling any different.
You can name your triggers and explain your trauma, but the anxiety still shows up in your body. You don’t want more coping tools or worksheets. You want emotional release, nervous system safety, and internal shifts you can actually feel. You’re ready for embodied healing, not more intellectualizing.
✔ You value emotional depth, self-reflection, and growth.
My best-fit clients tend to be Insightful & emotionally intelligent, sensitive, intuitive or spiritually curious, self-aware but still hard on themselves, motivated to heal, even if they’re scared, ready to be honest, vulnerable, and supported. You’re someone who wants a therapeutic relationship that honors both your emotional depth and your desire for real change.
✔ You’re willing to show up consistently and allow yourself to be supported.
You’re ready for a process that requires presence, not perfection. You’re open to trying EMDR, even if it feels unfamiliar, and you’re willing to trust the therapeutic structure without needing to manage the room or over-function. You’re ready to stop doing it all alone.
EMDR Psychotherapy Pricing
50 minute session fee: $17560 minute session fee: $20090 minute session fee: $250For teenagers, I require two intake appointments - one with the teen, one with the parent(s).
I accept all major credit cards & HSA. I do not accept insurance. I provide all clients with Superbills with the necessary information to submit to their insurance for possible reimbursement for therapy services.
Choosing EMDR therapy is more than a weekly commitment - it’s an investment in emotional freedom, nervous system safety, and a future that feels spacious, grounded, and aligned.
The shifts you experience in EMDR don’t fade once sessions end; they become part of who you are and how you move through the world.
Here’s what the long-term return on your “yes” looks like:
Frequently Asked Questions
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I recommend calling the number on the back of your insurance card and asking about your out of network mental health benefits. Specifically, you might ask, “how much do you reimburse for therapy with an out of network provider?” you might even spell it out for them, saying “if I have an out of network therapist who charges $200 per session, how much would be reimbursed when I pay out of pocket and submit a superbill?”
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I see clients Mondays through Thursdays, usually between 11am-6pm. Most of my clients have work schedules that fall during session times and utilize lunch breaks for sessions, or meet in the afternoons when work tends to be ‘slower’ (depending on their job). Employers are usually very understanding if you tell them you have a weekly appointment, some people say they have a weekly medical appt, some just say they have therapy and employers do not mind granting an hour each week for this. Sometimes, clients utilize an hour of PTO each week for therapy.
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I have limited in-person appointments on Mondays in a beautiful office located in South Lake Union in Seattle, WA. I offer telehealth appointments on Tuesdays, Wednesdays & Thursdays.
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Sessions can be 50, 60, or 90 minutes depending on your need. Most targeted trauma therapies do better with longer session times. Many of my clients prefer starting with 50 min sessions. We will discuss if you need more time & your preferences as needed!
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Yes, especially in the first 3 months of treatment. Biweekly meetings are only recommended if we determine this is best for you based on my assessment and your progress. I do not work with clients on a biweekly basis in the first 3 months of treatment, as it is not likely to be effective.
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This varies depending on many factors, and would be best discussed directly with me. In EMDR, the ‘preparation’ phase can vary greatly depending on the needs of the client; some people can get right into reprocessing, others need prep for 3-6 months, others 1-2 years. Reprocessing time varies depending on your targets. EMDR can be ‘short term’ or ‘long term’. We follow the needs of your nervous system & are in no rush, as rushing is often a signal of dysregulation.
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EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a research-backed trauma therapy that helps the brain process unresolved memories, emotions, and beliefs so they no longer trigger anxiety or distress. Instead of talking about the past, EMDR uses bilateral stimulation to help your nervous system release old emotional patterns and replace them with a sense of safety, clarity, and calm.
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Absolutely! In the initial phases of treatment, you will receive plenty of psychoeducation as needed to help you understand all of these things that are relevant to your experience.
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EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and DBT-PE are both highly effective trauma therapies, but they differ in pace, structure, and how much action happens outside of sessions.
EMDR is a less cognitively demanding and less behaviorally intensive approach. It is rooted in nervous system regulation and informed by polyvagal theory, focusing on helping the brain and body naturally process traumatic memories that became “stuck.” Rather than verbal processing, describing memories or homework-based exposure, EMDR uses bilateral stimulation (such as eye movements, tapping, or sounds) to support trauma processing. Most of the work happens in-session, with minimal talking and little to no between-session assignments.
EMDR can be especially helpful for clients who:
Feel emotionally flooded rather than emotionally numb
Are less analytical and more emotionally intuitive
Feel overwhelmed by highly structured or homework-heavy approaches
Are extremely avoidant and need a gentler, more indirect entry point into trauma work
Want a body-based, experiential approach with less emphasis on verbal processing
Because EMDR works primarily through the nervous system, it can feel softer and less “effortful”, while still producing meaningful trauma resolution over time.
Are you ready to finally ditch the anxiety & people pleasing stemming from your childhood wounds in order to rediscover your
Authentic Self?
Take action. Schedule your free 15 minute intro call today.